Tuesday, March 18, 2014
12:55 AM
其实
许多话题关于我 就连我也有听过
我的快乐要被认可 委屈却没有人诉说
每一次想开口 但不如保持安静
Monday, March 3, 2014
1:21 AM
The bad days don't define you
"There will be days when it’s hard.
There will be days when it seems impossible.
There will be days when it is.
There will be days when you’re stressed, or you’re tired, or you didn’t
sleep well the night before, or you got into a fight with your best
friend, or with your boyfriend, or with your parents, or you saw your
bank account statement, or your boss yelled at you, or your client
canceled the account, or you didn’t meet numbers, or you locked yourself
out of your apartment, or your roommate used the last of the toilet
paper, or your cat peed on your coat, or you missed the express train
that pulled out of the station right as you got there, or you tripped
and fell on the street, or you spilled hot coffee down your shirt, or
you lost your debit card, or you got a really bad tangle in your hair,
or you lost a contact lens, or you got a blister, or you found out your
ex was dating somebody new, or plans fell through. There will be days
when everything happened. There will be days when nothing happened.
There will be days when it’s because it’s Wednesday. There will be days
when it’s because it’s not.
There will be days when everything and nothing is the straw that breaks
your back, and you want to cave. Sometimes, you begin to. Sometimes, you
do even though you don’t want to, not really. There will be days when
giving in, when relenting, when giving up seems so easy and so obvious,
and it will be so painful when you do it. There will be days when you
feel weaker by the second, and more useless, and more hopeless, and lost
and alone and confused and scared.
There will always be these days. There will be a lot of them. There will be more than you will be able to count.
But there will always be tomorrow, too.
And there will always be right now.
And you can always forgive yourself, right now, and take a deep breath,
right now, and move on. Right now. Right in this moment. It’s not easy,
but worthwhile things often aren’t. And you will have to learn to
forgive yourself, even when you slip up—especially when you do—because
the extra shame incurred in starting from scratch will only tie you
down. After all, you are only human, and humans sometimes falter. And
really, that’s okay. If you thought you were anything more, if you still
thought you were superhuman, you’d still be chasing invincibility to
rock bottom.
You are not useless. You are not hopeless. And no matter how scared you
are, you will never be alone. And deep down, somewhere, in the part of
you that decided the good days and your happiness and your health were
all worth fighting for, you know that, too. Hold onto that knowledge. It
will see you through the worst.
Because those bad days will always happen, but it’s in this
moment, right here and now, that you can realize that no matter how many
days you have, they do not mean you’ve lost the days you’ve won. And
there will be more days to win, whatever winning means to you.
Being clean, being sober, being recovered. Just not being depressed and
overwhelmed and overwhelmingly sad. Whatever it is. If it’s all of the
above, if it’s none.
This too shall pass, and you will not be less of a person for it. Bad days cannot take away who you are.
There as many days to win as there are tomorrows. Days that you can win. Days that you will win.
Because these days—the bad ones—do not define you. Not unless you let
them. You are defined by the days that you decide define you.
And you can be defined by the days you win."