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Wednesday, July 24, 2013 12:48 AM
惧怕／敌人
人在最高峰和最低谷的时候，会有一种很虚空的感觉
一种被吊在半空中，脚踩不到地的恐惧感。
人最大的敌人是自己；因为人里面有惧怕。
怕不能胜任，怕别人的眼光，怕失去，怕让人失望，怕承担，
怕面对过去，怕未来，怕理想不能实现，怕生老病死；
什么都怕，完全被怕控制住。
所以一直做自己的敌人。
Tuesday, July 16, 2013 4:39 AM
Quarter life crisis
Definition:
The quarterlife crisis is a period of life following the major changes of adolescence, usually ranging from the late teens to the early thirties, in which a person begins to feel doubtful about their own lives, brought on by the stress of becoming an adult.
 Everyday I ask myself the same question - What do I really want to be?
Friday, July 12, 2013 12:59 AM
THE TOP FIVE REGRETS OF THE DYING
This is all over my FB feeds. Credits to whoever who shared this!
Bronnie Ware is an Australian nurse who spent several years working in palliative care, caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives. She recorded their dying epiphanies in a blog called Inspiration and Chai, which gathered so much attention that she put her observations into a book called "The Top Five Regrets of the Dying".  Here are the top five regrets of the dying, as witnessed by Ware: 1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. "This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it." 2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard. "This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence." 3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings. "Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result." 4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. "Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying." 5. I wish that I had let myself be happier. "This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again." I wish I've read this earlier. But it's still not too late. I hope you'll find the courage to love and express, to be happy. Dream it, Wish it, Do it. God bless.
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